Stephen Colbert on his ‘gratitude’ for grief’s ache

Colbert, who’s the youngest of 11 siblings, misplaced his father and two teenage brothers Peter and Paul, in a aircraft crash close to Charlotte, North Carolina, on September 11, 1974. He was simply 10 years previous on the time.

“That is such a cliff that I fell off emotionally and psychically and spiritually at that age,” he stated.

Cooper was additionally 10 when he misplaced his father in 1978 at age 50 after a coronary heart assault. Ten years later, Cooper’s brother, Carter, died by suicide.

Colbert informed Cooper the lack of his father and brothers “shattered” his and his mom’s lives, nevertheless it didn’t “destroy” them. “It’s a gift to exist,” Colbert informed Cooper, “and with existence comes suffering. There’s no escaping that, but if you are grateful for your life, then you have to be grateful for all of it.”

Colbert went on to say, “You can’t win against grief because you’re the one doing it to you. Grief itself is a natural process that has to be experienced.”

Cooper admitted he all the time assumed he can be useless by age 50, like his father. He was afraid if he had kids, they might develop up fatherless.

After he had turned 50 and obtained assurances from his physician that he was in good well being, Cooper stated he felt safer having youngsters. He now has two younger sons, Wyatt and Sebastian.

Equally, Colbert shared that as a result of he had by no means skilled life with a father previous the age of 10, he seen his personal mortality by means of the ages of his three kids and stated that he would continually do “that horrible math all the time,” fearing he would die as every approached the age of 10.

Colbert has discovered to just accept his losses, however describes his grief as “like living with a beloved tiger. It can surprise you, it can pounce on you. And it can really hurt you, but it’s my tiger, and it’s going to live as long as I do.”

Colbert recommended Cooper, who stated he’s nonetheless making an attempt to know his grief, to speak about his family members and share tales of their lives. As a substitute of pondering of grief as a entice of melancholy, Colbert stated he tries to take a look at it as a doorway, “because you’re going to be a different person on the other side of it.”

Anderson Cooper explores loss and grief in deeply personal new CNN podcast

Since his podcast’s debut final week, Cooper has obtained hundreds of messages from listeners writing about their very own journeys by means of loss and why it’s so vital to lastly discuss it out loud.

New episodes of CNN’s All There Is with Anderson Cooper can be found on Wednesdays on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts.

Megan Marcus is the chief producer of CNN Audio.